Reflections on motherhood 2017

Motherhood. Erma Bombeck called it the world’s second oldest profession. It’s on everyone’s mind in May thanks to Hallmark and retail establishments. And in a few days I am celebrating the 34rd anniversary of my entry into the ‘hood. Guess you know what this means. It’s my son’s birthday this week and HE is getting old!

I have some shallow reflections about this survival adventure, when he arrived naked and I was afraid.

He was an adorable baby but didn’t come with a user manual and cried for no reason.

James glasses crying frame

He loved dirt and sometimes he ate it. But he didn’t get sick (much). There was that beef stroganoff incident we no longer speak of.  We no longer eat beef stroganoff either.

James eating dirt frame

I bought him wondrous, educational toys but he preferred common household items

James cans pots frame

I thought he might gravitate to music and the arts, but he was more the cowboy type.

James piano cowboy frame

He loved to read and one time he dressed up as his favorite book’s character.

Big Friendly Giant frame

I let him pick out his own clothes.

James pre-k frame

He watched Bugs Bunny cartoons and didn’t turn out violent.

ACME frame

He made his first brownies when he was 9 years old on a Saturday morning while I slept in, qualifying him for son of the year. To this day his cooking skills, and love of good food are legendary.

James cook frame

I didn’t care what color his hair was as long as he wasn’t going for tattoos and piercings. He forgave me for botching up the home dye job, after I took him to a professional for a redo.

James blond frame

He had some killer Halloween costumes.

James dracula frame

I will never be convinced the runner was safe, but I still love this photograph.

James baseball frame

It was hard to let him go.

James 1st day school frame

I tried not to hover but was always there in the background.

James engagement frame

The braces paid off because he turned out handsome, and he married a beautiful woman, and when you are shallow, looks are everything.

James wedding frame

He always made me laugh. When I broke my foot two weeks before my beloved sister Linda died of cancer, he sent me this video. It really helped pull me up by my orthopedic bootstraps, and it still makes me laugh.

And now he is a wonderful father to TWO little boys we like to call ‘pride’ and ‘joy.’

Humor helps get him through his daily grind as a parent. I have hope for him as a future parent Twitter comedian.


My role as a mother has changed through the years as my son has grown into adulthood. But one thing will never change: the stretch marks. Oh yeah, and my undying love for him. As a matter of fact I will love him forever, but not in that creepy “I’ll Love You Forever” book way.

What parenting survival memories can you share?

Author’s note: This was originally published in 2015, but I updated it and republished it in 2016 and 2017.


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62 thoughts on “Reflections on motherhood 2017

  1. This was such a delight to read and view!! Your photos are just so full of love and joy! The one of ‘the baby engineer’ is so gorgeous and made me belly laugh. Your son and his family are wonderful, as are you. xox

    • Thank you so much! I do love theses photos and living through those precious days of parenting was truly a delight. Of course it had its challenges too, as any parenting job does. So glad I could make you laugh today and your comment warms my heart. XO

  2. Loved looking at your memories! I dread the day my two fly the nest, but at least we have lots of memories, photographic, or otherwise!

    • The moment James was born I dreaded the day he would leave and it was a difficult time indeed for me. Once I adjusted I found my identity in pursuing interests of my own, like singing and now writing. And I’m so grateful he and his family live near us now so I can see them often. Thanks for stopping by and leaving me a comment Ritu.

  3. What a beautiful post, so funny and tender and full of love. My daughter just turned the same “old.” Really? How is that possible? Happy Birthday to your son. You did good, mom. 😀

    • Thank you so much and congratulations on having a daughter of the same vintage as my son. It’s been a lot of fun midst the usual stress of parenting. I can’t believe they are that ‘old’ can you?

    • Thank you Gabriel. I didn’t know I was nominated for the bloggers bash award. In fact, I didn’t know what it was until I just googled it. Thanks for letting me know. I’m excited about it. Thank you for stopping by for a visit and leaving a comment.

  4. Oh Molly! My eyes have dust in them too, just like Terri’s!!
    That video was the perfect medicine to cure your broken foot!! I think both CAmeron, and his dad have a future in film!

  5. What a lovely read, Molly. I’m sure he adores you as much as you adore him. Motherhood? I can’t comment on that, of fatherhood for that matter, but what does matter is the love within a family.

  6. This post brought a huge grin to my face – especially the video (loved the “dancing”). Certainly NOT a shallow reflection at all!

    Thanks for sharing – missed the joys of motherhood personally, and I never got to test my theory that I would be an awesome grandmother! I feel proprietary toward my students, however. Happy [much] belated Mother’s Day.
    (Madelyn Griffith-Haynie – ADDandSoMuchMORE dot com)
    ADD/EFD Coach Training Field founder; ADD Coaching co-founder
    “It takes a village to transform a world!”

    • Shhhh….don’t tell anyone that I have moments when I’m not shallow, Madelyn. So glad you get to nurture your students as this is so important. I admire those who teach so much. Thank you so much for reading and leaving a comment. Glad you enjoyed Cameron’s dancing! He has turned out to be quite a performer and at 5 years old we think he might need to attend theater camp.

    • Thank you Maria. It was a labor of love to put this post together. So many memories and so much fun to raise this boy. I am excited about checking out your blog. Glad to have you stopping by.

      • That was kind of you to take a look at my blog. I have a lot of reflections on being a mother though the posts are spread all over. I try to give them the category “family history ” to collect them a bit

  7. Love it, Molly! I, too, have one son who is 37, but not yet married. As a result, I am jealous of those beautiful grandsons! This was fun. My Chris would kill me if I did it, though. Is that why you didn’t print your son’s name? Chris even has an alias for Facebook – not that he’s a criminal or anything. He’s an assistant professor and decided it was high time to clean up any record of his earlier adventures on the internet! 🙂

    • I had my daughter-in-law preview this and give me the seal of approval before I posted it the first time and it turns out James really liked it. I did omit his name and family names when I first started my blog but now I’m pretty free with using their names. I can see why your Chris might need a FB alias with his position. How wonderful that you raised a son too. I’ll hold out hope for you that he reproduces to give you the grandmother experience ASAP, Kate!

  8. Awww this is just awesome!! Do you mind if I steal it and use it for my son’s birthday? LOL! Gotta love those funny sons! Thanks for the morning smiles!

  9. Mummy you done good! What a lovely wander through the growing of your boy and the squaring of the circle with his own sons. I really enjoyed it!

  10. I had those big glasses, big hair and a huge stomach (pregnant with #2 son). He sounds like a great son with a fabulous sense of humor but then I wouldn’t expect anything else coming from you.

    • Thank you Bernadette. He is a great son and he has made me laugh a lot through the years. He can tell a great story. We did make a fashion statement in our younger years didn’t we? Love those glasses!

    • Thank you so much Dave. It warms my heart to think that people who don’t know me personally or my son can still appreciate this post. I’ve had a lot of fun through the years raising him and I enjoy remembering those days especially on his birthday. And those little boys….don’t get me started on them!

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